I’m almost positive I’m not wrong when I say that all relationships have disagreements in them, correct? It shouldn’t matter whether you’re married, just dating, whether we’re talking about a relationship between a mother & child, father & child, or even just in a friendship. I’ll be the first to admit that my marriage with my husband isn’t perfect. I’m sure NO ONE has the PERFECT relationship or marriage, correct? Sure, you might think you do, but honestly, a PERFECT relationship would be one where no one messes up, where there aren’t any disagreements, etc, RIGHT?
One thing I’ve learned in the past 10 + years of being in a relationship with my husband (we’ve been married 9, together ALMOST 11 1/2) is that you can’t hold stuff in. Did I learn this right away or did it take me some time? Would you like to take a guess? Read on to find out if you’re right or wrong!!
It has most certainly taken me some time! Honestly, I’d have to say that it took me probably over 3 years to figure this out.. Did I start applying this right away? Of course not, I’m what people would call hard headed lol. I still have times where I don’t tell my husband what I’m thinking right away, and it more often than not simmers inside me and when we get into an argument, I tend to blow up. It’s a bad thing to do, but it’s going to take some TIME for me to get used to NOT holding it in. I’m not the kind of person that can just blurt out what they’re thinking, especially if I think it’s going to make someone mad or upset.
I don’t like getting into arguments or disagreements with my husband, but they happen. More often than not they’re probably my fault. I say probably, because if you ask my husband, he’d end up saying they’re his fault, but I don’t think so. I grew up taking the blame for so much stuff, even if it wasn’t my fault, that’s just how it rolled, with me being the oldest child. I am pretty used to it. So it’s nothing new. Anyways.. As you can probably have guessed, we got into a slight disagreement tonight so I wanted to get this out.. There’s really no point to this post, but oh well, here it is!