Trusting someone means that you feel safe with them, both emotionally and physically, you think they are reliable, and you have confidence in them. I feel that having trust is a very big part of a healthy marriage. Trust is something that two people in a relationship can build together, keeping in mind that trust isn’t something you can demand from people, and it’s a choice that you have to make.
Once someone loses their trust in you, it can be a hard thing to get back. There have been a lot of friendships where I thought I could trust my friend, but it turns out I couldn’t. The same goes with friendships with family. I’ve learned that in the past, trust was something that I gave out way too freely, and I got hurt, burned and disappointed in those people. I am now much more careful with who I put my trust into. I trust my husband with all my heart and soul, with my entire being, and it would take a lot for my trust in him to fade.
Once someone loses my trust in them, it’s going to be hard for them to get it back. They’re going to have to prove that they’re worthy of my trust.
I’ll be honest and say that I used to be pretty close with one of my sister in laws. Things were said when I was pregnant for the 3rd time since Hubby and I got together, and it hurt. I mean, it’s going to hurt when someone says that since “you were both pregnant at the same time before and she lost her baby, it’s only fair that this time, you lose your baby.” That’s not something that you would ever wish on anyone. It’s been 4 years since then, and the pain is still very raw. I was 11 weeks pregnant, to the day, but you don’t EVER wish for someone to lose their baby. While it wasn’t my SIL who said such hurtful things, she didn’t stick up for me. She didn’t defend me. She didn’t do anything of the sort. She pretty much condoned what was said. There are plenty of other things that have happened, but I have absolutely ZERO trust in that woman. It’s even pretty safe to say that I’m not exactly too fond of her. I’m nice to her, because even though I’m not fond of her, she’s family. She will always be family, even if something were to happen to cause Hubby and I to get a divorce (which isn’t something I believe in, btw). She will always be family because she is my kids’ aunt.
Needless to say, trust is an important part in just about any relationship, especially a marriage!