When you are in a marriage, and you have doubts that the person you are married to is being faithful, don’t just come right out and assume and accuse them that they are cheating. Not only could it really hurt them, but it can cause some serious issues in a relationship. Instead of assuming and accusing, ask! You’re less likely to get a super defensive reaction if you ask. You’re less likely to absolutely break the person you’re married to’s heart.
I have a friend who’s husband thought she was cheating on him with a person much younger than she. Instead of just asking, when she asked him what was wrong one night, he told her that he saw some things and instead of addressing them, he stewed on them for a day and it was a big blow up. She called me explaining what had happened and asking for advice about what to do. The only thing you can do is be completely honest.
Do I think it would have been better than to ask than to just accuse a person of cheating? Abso-freaking-lutely. It would have been a lot less stressful for the husband, and would have caused less heartbreak for the wife, I think.
The months following have been rough for them, and according to her, have JUST started getting better in the past couple weeks.